Introvert personality? How to still shine in your spa.

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Let’s talk about too many people with too much chat.

We all need interaction with other human beings, but for those with introvert personalities too much time spent chatting or doing activities with others can take it’s toll on an introverted soul.
As beauty therapists or estheticians, we give a lot of ourselves away in performing treatments, listening to clients and making general chit chat.
This is constant, and in a typical day and  can last more than eight hours spent with many, many clients. It can become so taxing as we give 110% of ourselves away to each and every client.
By the end of the week if we are not careful our mind and personality can be so drained from it all that we don’t have anything left to give to our family or friends.

Random thoughts-
How can I still shine above all the extrovert therapists or estheticians out there?
Can I survive the week without getting extremely fatigued from all the human interaction?
Will I still be popular with clients?

Don’t fret if this is you or your thoughts. Here we are going to talk about how having an introvert personality is perfect for you and all your beauty clients.

Don’t let give, give, give happen to you.

Emotional burnout is real and for us can be just as hard as the physical nature of the job. You definitely do not want to start to avoiding social engagements on your days off simply because you are too mentally exhausted to face even just one more person. You have to have time for your peers outside of work, and you cannot let yourself or your loved ones miss out.

I was once given a piece of advice when I worked in a spa and that was to shake my hands vigorously after every client, especially if I had been working on a client with deep physical or emotional needs. The theory behind this was to shake out some of the negative energy you had channeled into yourself from the client.

I wasn’t sure whether I believed it or not at the time, but I sometimes caught myself doing it just to see, and I think it helped, even just knowing I was practicing a small form of self-care .

But really, the truth is we need more than a small tactic like this.

So how should you balance the chaos and turbulence that comes with a typical spa or salon day, to enable you to still have your own energy, and basically a life, after you are depleted ?

For a start, you’re in the right place.


Self care in your salon or spa.
Self care in your salon or spa.

You are standing slap bang in the middle of a spa, with a beauty bed, candles, soft music…..

ANY chance you get get yourself on that bed for a recharge . Just lie there with your eyes closed and breath!
I used to find this incredibly relaxing and when I had a spare 5 minutes it really used to help, not only to take the weight off my feet, but also to recharge and then re-focus.
Try to be at one with a feeling of peace for this short amount of time and call it a mini- meditation if you like. Remember how your clients feel after you have worked on them with kindness and compassion, how you’ve helped heal and nurture them in their turbulent and chaotic lives, and take a few short , deep breathes to remember yourself.

Another great way to get through the busy day is to make sure you have a few relaxing treatments booked in for you to perform  i.e. facials or massage treatments, as opposed to face to face treatments such as nails or spray tanning. These more relaxing treatments give you the chance to connect with your client, yet zone out at the same time.
You can say to your client that to get the maximum benefits from the treatment you are not going to talk and just let her/ him fully relax. This works perfectly whilst you connect with your client through touch, yet you both chill out with your own thoughts in tranquil surroundings.

Additionally, the age-old tactics always work! Get yourself out in nature as often as you can. Eat well, move regularly through exercise , have meaningful relationships with your family and friends outside of work, and treat yourself to beauty treatments too! All these things require effort on your days off but will definitely balance your soul and nourish your introvert personality.

Lastly, simply reminding yourself that everyone is suffering in some way or another helps us see the larger vision. At the end of the day all your clients, co-workers and friends are tired and burnt out too, emotionally and physically, and although they may not show it due to their personalities, remind yourself that you are doing your bit to help them and that your efforts are important.

As an introvert how can I be a popular member of my team?

Like most introverts you will have extrovert best friends, peers and relatives. You get on fantastically, so of course you will still be popular with clients and staff – introverts and extroverts alike.
You will be super popular!
Introverts are listeners by nature and that is exactly what every client needs and wants. Don’t think for a second clients won’t remember you or you won’t get noticed.

This is not true!!!!

Introvert goals in your spa!
Introvert goals in your spa!

Your unique personality trait is a major plus for your clients. They will tune into your calming nature and be queuing up to book you for a relaxing massage or facial.

As for having their nails done they can chat, chat away to their heart’s content, knowing you are happy to sit and listen.
Your boss or co-workers will also appreciate your well prepared and creative side (common plus traits of introverts) and they will adore the fact you will sit and listen to their worries and woes too!

Go for it! Impact you uniqueness into you salon or spa.

As an introvert you have many gifts to offer your business.

Introverts are like gold to a salon or spa’s payroll. There are millions of wallflower estheticians and beauty therapists out there working in the beauty industry. This is before we even count the number of beautybloggers and online beauty entrepreneurs working from the comfort of their own homes. It could even be argued that possessing an introvert character is  the best temperament to have to be working beauty on others.

The important factor in all of this is you can figure out yourself what works best for you, whether it be giving yourself 20 mins on that beauty bed 2 or 3 times a day, or discussing with your family and friends that you need that one afternoon/ evening to yourself to keep yourself sain and to nurture you own soul.

It always helps as well to try and picture a larger vision or more long-term vision of your salon or spa. Knowing that everything is temporary and that long, draining days won’t last will keep you going. As your salon or spa grows you will get payment back in the future in terms of money success and more freedom.

All is well with an introverted beauty giver, and although some days may bring chaos, noise and chitter- chatter that all seem too much to bear, you will have your own retreat or time-alone plan where you can relax, enjoy yourself and gain your special clarity on the world again.

Do you have an introverted personality?

How do you cope with a busy and very sociable work day?

I’d love to hear more in the comments below.



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  1. Once upon a time, I wanted to be a massage therapist. I’m a empathic healer by nature and when I learned Reiki it seemed only natural to become a MT. I hadn’t thought of the energy drain though, good point. The hand shaking off negative energy is something Reiki practitioners do too, it works. Here’s another tip for you, sage yourself prior to work for protection. Buy white sage, burn it and let the smoke cover you and say a prayer, mantra or what ever makes you comfortable. It help with the drainage of energy and blocks any emotional attacks. Not to say peope do it intentionally but they can aim anger, stress and frustration at you as they vent.

  2. What a great article, full of specific and practical tips and techniques to put into effect right away!

    I am also in customer service, and although I don’t work in a spa, I have to deal with other people’s problems and issues on a day-to-day basis. During my break, just getting up and walking around, or going outside for a few breaths of fresh air works wonders.

    Thanks for the suggestion about the shaking of the hands. This is very intriguing as I believe very strongly in energy fields, vibrations and reiki. I’ll be trying that technique today!

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